―Rachel
About Grace!
You might not know this about me, but I am opinionated, stubborn, and judgmental. And I oen strug-
gle when other Chrisans approach life with different atudes than I do. For as long as I can remem-
ber, I have oen complained to my mother when I am unhappy about the decisions of others.
I will let things come out of my mouth like:
“Well I think it’s ridiculous that they decided to do that.”
“I can’t believe that he would think it’s okay to say something in that way.”
“Why would anyone make that choice?”
And, as long as I can remember, my mother has responded with things like:
“But Rachel, think about where they are coming from. Your perspecve is not their experience.”
“But Rachel, why don’t you extend them some grace?”
“But Rachel, that’s not where they are at. They aren’t ready to think about it that way. But you can
pray for them, that they would hear God’s voice in this.”
When I was younger, her responses just cked me off. Now, I begrudgingly listen. I don’t like it, but
when my mother says, “Grace” it always feels like God is saying, “Listen to her.”
I take my mother’s concept of grace seriously. She has been in the eye of storms, she has been the
target of the enemy. And when life is chaos and the way forward is unclear, she fixes her eyes on Jesus
with all that she possesses. And she sll extends grace.
Grace costs us. It costs us our passionately stated opinions, and our self-righteous judgements. It costs
us the high ground, and the ability to speak over others. It requires gentleness, and forgiveness, and
the ability to listen. It takes a lot of prayer. It takes a lot of stern stuff―we have to take the churning
parts of our insides and focus them on Jesus.
I have been blessed by grace. First, by my Savior and my King, second by the family of God. The gos-
pels drip with references to the grace of God, and we in return, extend a version of that grace to oth-
ers. In our feeble humanness, God allows us to offer love, forgiveness, compassion, paence, kind-
ness, joy, and hope to others without any expectaon of receiving. We can offer freely, remembering
that we serve a God of abundance, and when we let go of ourselves to extend grace, we are becoming
more of who Jesus is inving us to be. The cost of grace to us is the smallest of echoes of the cost of
God giving grace to us.
When my mother cauons me towards grace, she is not cauoning me to passivity. She is encouraging
me to pray in certain ways, with certain perspecves. She is guiding me to listen to the hearts and
minds of those I am judging. She is offering up an alternave way to think and feel about those whom
God has crossed my path with. There’s no pretense of the issue going away. There’s no covering up
the unpleasant honesty of my thoughts and feelings. It’s me and God in a room, working it out. It’s me
and a friend on a walk, when I take a deep breath and say, “Why don’t you tell me about it? I’ll listen.”
It’s the thought crossing my mind, and then my mental response of, “It’s okay that they responded
differently than I would,” or, “They need me to truly hear them, before they can listen to me point to
scripture, or welcome my prayers.”
If you are a journaler, or a discusser, or a ponderer, I invite you to think about the times grace has been
extended to you by members of your church family. Thank God for those people and those moments.
Then turn your mind and your prayers to your life now. Is there a place where God is prompng you to
mimic His grace, and extend it to others?
Verses to contemplate: Hebrews 4:14-16, James 4:1-12